I remember when fishing for compliments was an odd thing. It was something people did when they’re insecure. It was a way to feel good inside. When you fish for compliments, you basically talk someone into admitting something they probably initially didn’t think so. Sounds familiar? I also remember what it was like to hear a compliment unexpectedly. Maybe someone noticed how I did my hair differently and told me I looked nice. Or maybe I did some random act of giving, and I was appreciated for it. It was then at the time when we didn’t expect people to respond so readily to everything we did, small or big.
We might have reached the highest peak of selfishness. We live in a world where narcissism is the norm and the individual is the center of the universe. We no longer need our peers to validate us. We validate ourselves. Is this the way the world has become? Maybe I’ll take a picture of my outfit when I go out tonight. Stylin’. I wonder how many likes I’ll get. I might get some boosting comments. So pretty. Nice outfit. Where’d you get those shoes? 1 Like. 10 Likes. 21 Likes. What if I don’t get any likes or comments? How is that supposed to make me feel?
0 Likes 0 Comments. Not nice.
Should that make me feel so small? Should that make me want to change what I wear because people may not like it? Would something like this bother you? No? Check again. Maybe someone liked it now.
What is it about our insatiable thirst for immediate approval? It’s problematic. We are now witnessing the slow death of the beautiful trait of humility. We are diminishing our capacity for slow and intimate appreciation. So many pictures to go through. So many comments to like. I believe in the social technology we have. I admire its ability to network people who, otherwise, would never be connected. I believe in self-promotion as long is its for something other than just self-promotion itself. How are we going to teach our daughters self-confidence in this world of fast-paced yeses and no’s? How are we going to teach our sons the value of true greatness in its purest sense?
You don’t need the world to tell you how you should feel; that comes from deep inside. Reach for the stars, but keep your feet on the ground; that way, you won’t get lost in the stars. Never lose wonder in life as life is the most wondrous thing you’ll ever come across. Explore the world and never stop doing it. There are things you can control and things that you can’t; learn when to open your hands and when to close them. Find meaning in everything you do. Do good to others and to the world. Keep it simple and don’t sweat the small stuff. There’s nothing more beautiful than strength of character. Balance your life; make sure there is silence in your outer life and exuberance in your inner life. You are and will be anything and everything you strive to be; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You qualify in every regard.
This is my hope for my children for they will live in an even more skewed world than I do: I hope they take pictures of their world and not of themselves.