The Problem With Comfortable

We know how to do it.  We’ve heard the words.  Get out of your comfort zone.  Be bold.  Be brave.  Take the road less traveled by.

What are the signs that you’re comfortable?  Is it the same as settling?

I’ve been trying to launch a business for about 4 months now.  I have no business background, so I read whatever books I can find.  I watch videos, take online courses, follow people who have been successful.  I recently came across a free, downloadable application for iOS devices called Failure Games.  It basically gives you a platform where you can take risks, fail, and possibly learn.  The app poses daily challenges to get a person out of the coveted comfort zone, to take risks.  Daily challenges can go anywhere from taking a stranger out to lunch or telling jokes or something maybe a bit more serious.  You can then take a photo and put it up on social media, of course.  The app makers propose that learning how to survive from failure and being brave in that sense can help a person in his business ventures.  Ok.

It sounds really brilliant.  And tons of fun.

However, I think it’s really sad.  When did it happen?  When did we need a digital device to tell us how to do something different?  How to be brave?  I think all this does is give people a false sense of accomplishment.  “I did this challenge, YES!”  But then they turn around and encourage you to FAIL!  Why?  So you can learn from your failure.  What?

I believe the problem with comfortability is really not in getting out of it.  I believe it’s in initially recognizing that you are comfortable.  And it is scary once the realization surfaces.  How many of us have awaken with a feeling that what we’re doing in life isn’t enough?  Is it the ultimate life goal to be bigger, be bolder, reach for the stars?  Shouldn’t we all try to be better at everything we do?

I don’t quite know.  I can say yes.  Then I can also say no.

Being brave is a conscious response to fear.  Getting out of your comfort zone is a conscious response to indifference.  Recognizing your lacks and faults as a person, a daughter, a mother, a lover, a friend–is a conscious realization that you can be better and do better.  I can be a better person or a better daughter.  I can do better as a mother and as a friend.  I can be a better lover to my other half.  I can be a better business owner, a better student, a better teacher.  I can be better at anything I want to be better at.  That’s my conscious realization that there is no limit to being BETTER.

I downloaded that app because it’s a fun thing to do.  I wish they didn’t market it as a real solution to overcoming fear.  There are people out there who have serious, serious issues with fear–not just fear of failure but fear in general.  Fear is one of our most innate emotions as people.  It sits there, deeply rooted in our brains for specific reasons.  We are wired to respond with fear when we are faced with anything that can harm us.  Some fears are false.  Some are true.  That is really up to quick judgment some people don’t have.  Some people’s fight or flight responses are just not fast enough.  Give them a bit of time and internalization that maybe they are hanging around the comforts of home because they’re afraid to step out the front door.

Or maybe they just love to be at home.

It’s all gray matter to me.  I guess the app can be good practice, after all.

Anyway, I bid you a free-falling Thursday to do anything your heart feels is just right.  Be weightless.  Be fearless.  Be different.  Go travel the road less taken.  Do what’s in your heart and not what the device in your hand is telling you.  Just kidding.  If you want the app, go to  It’s fun for all you thrill-seekers.


Author: Jennifer Longinos

I'm a freelance writer and a homeschooling mom of two awesome toddlers. If we aren't out on an adventure, we spend most of our days tickling each other on the bedroom floor, making things explode in the kitchen, jumping on piles of laundry before and after washing, or just doing random little things that make life absolutely worth it.

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